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Monday, December 12, 2005

Insecurity

Is it really insecurity to tell secrets to only a few people?

Just because it's not public doesn't mean it's dirty. Just private.

7 Comments:

  • by definition, shouldn't secrets not be told, or at best, be told only to a few people.
    I think it's a sign of honor and trust, not insecurity

    By Blogger A Frum Idealist, at 8:45 PM, December 12, 2005  

  • I think it depends on the secret. Some have no Toeles, just a past embarassment. There's nothing gained by telling anybody. But some secrets are yet to be put to bed. They are screaming for resolution. So it's only natural to turn to people for their advice. Or at the very least to force yourself to confront your secret.

    I think this is the whole point of Post Secret.

    By Blogger Josh, at 9:27 PM, December 12, 2005  

  • No I think its' smart!

    By Blogger Pragmatician, at 10:35 AM, December 13, 2005  

  • Dont agree with Frum idealist. For example, if youre married or in a long term relationship....you tell your partner e/ secret you are told, even if they tell you nt to say a/t to a/o.

    If you need to tell s/o, write it in your blog.. :)

    By Blogger Lost, at 3:50 PM, December 13, 2005  

  • Who said secrets are a sign of insecurity? Maybe... if you're telling over someone elses secret that they confided in you....

    By Blogger FrumGirl, at 3:57 PM, December 13, 2005  

  • Frum Idealist:
    Trust was sort of what I was aiming at

    Josh:
    Not all secerts are dire festering blisters waiting to burst. Some are very small things, nicknames and inside jokes. Some don't need resolution. Some are meant to be told only to one or tow individuals in your life.

    Prag:
    thank you!

    Lost:
    Your spouse is you. But I would hesitate to betray s/o else's confidence. Tell my secrets on this blog [laugh] that would hardly have the private quality that I would prefer.

    By Blogger Masmida, at 3:58 PM, December 13, 2005  

  • Very often people confide in me and tell me their secrets and their issues. I believe they tell me because they are comfortable telling me and trusting that I will not repeat things to anyone, based on a proven track record. I learned a while back, that there are things people tell me that they are comfortable telling me but would not be comfortable with my wife knowing. If I sense that, I will not share it with my wife. If someone tells me something and says, please don't tell anybody, I will ask, does that include my wife, and if the answer is yes, I will not tell my wife. I don't see that as a betrayal of my wife. How is she harmed by not knowing this other person's "dirty laundry"?

    By Blogger A Frum Idealist, at 9:54 AM, December 14, 2005  

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